PLAY PARTY SESSION
The PlayParty Sessions are available for the advanced student, as they rely upon a foundation of understanding boundaries and consent.
In the PlayParty Session we start with the 3 minute game.
The game goes as follows:
Person 1 makes a clear request to person 2.
You may ask “Can I do this to you?”
Example: “May I give you a foot massage while you recline on the couch?”
Or you may ask “Will you do this to me?”
Example: “Will you hold me in a cuddle embrace and stroke my arms softly?”
Or “Will you touch my butt with feather light touch, and every once in a while give a little spank?”
The person receiving the request responds with their honest and authentic response, looking inside themselves for “Is it a yes? Is it a no? Or do I want to negotiate?”
Negotiating is saying “I don’t want to do exactly what you said, but I’d be a YES to doing ____, would that work for you?” (you offer something that feels comfortable and desirable to you, and you ask if they are in agreement.)
For example “No, I don’t want to touch your butt with feather touch, but I’d love to just do your arms and legs with feather touch. Would you be willing to receive that?”
The PlayParty session is an excellent time and place to explore learning about oneself in relationship to “other”.
Within this intentional container you get to try things out that you may not have the opportunity to experience in 'normal' daily life.
Here are some of the KEY skills you will learn in the PlayParty Session:
1. Asking for what you want
This may SEEM simple, but in reality, most of us have been conditioned to not ask for what we want, or if we do so, it may be in an indirect, pushy or seductive way. The PlayParty Session gives us the opportunity to Practice relating authentically with one another and asking for the experience we Want to have.
2.Being rejected
This is an emotion that most people Really want to avoid. But in the PlayParty, rejection is part of the process, and eventually it’s part of the fun. It seems radical, but if we go through life Afraid of rejection, and avoiding it, we may be missing out on so much of what we really want! The PlayParty Session is a place to practice being rejected, and building up a natural resiliency to it, creating a new reality where we realize that rejection doesn’t mean something is wrong with us, it simply means the other person is a No to that request in that moment, and its an opportunity to honor their self-knowing and their honest communication.
3.Cultivating Courage
Both asking for what you want and facing the experience of possible rejection take courage!! You may see in your life that you are becoming more courageous, able to take more risks and be more vulnerable with people after doing PlayParty sessions.
4.Allowing Vulnerability
Our vulnerability is golden. It is truly precious. I’m not speaking about sharing something that makes you vulnerable, like telling a secret, I’m talking about allowing your defenses to soften, to allow yourself to be touched physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Vulnerability is what allows us to feel true intimacy with one another.
5.Opening your Mind
My experience is that relating in the PlayParty way is incredibly freeing, mind expanding and fun. It opens you up to possibilities because it offers clear, safe, respectful guidelines that then allow for this incredible Play to happen, because when people feel safe, they can relax and expand. This expansion is felt in the body and in the mind. The mind becomes more creative, like a child’s mind, full of possibilities.
If you’d like to explore the PlayParty Sessions we can begin with the Innerlover Session and practice Boundaries and Consent thus building the foundation for the PlayParty Sessions.
~ $500 per hour
In the PlayParty Session we start with the 3 minute game.
The game goes as follows:
Person 1 makes a clear request to person 2.
You may ask “Can I do this to you?”
Example: “May I give you a foot massage while you recline on the couch?”
Or you may ask “Will you do this to me?”
Example: “Will you hold me in a cuddle embrace and stroke my arms softly?”
Or “Will you touch my butt with feather light touch, and every once in a while give a little spank?”
The person receiving the request responds with their honest and authentic response, looking inside themselves for “Is it a yes? Is it a no? Or do I want to negotiate?”
Negotiating is saying “I don’t want to do exactly what you said, but I’d be a YES to doing ____, would that work for you?” (you offer something that feels comfortable and desirable to you, and you ask if they are in agreement.)
For example “No, I don’t want to touch your butt with feather touch, but I’d love to just do your arms and legs with feather touch. Would you be willing to receive that?”
The PlayParty session is an excellent time and place to explore learning about oneself in relationship to “other”.
Within this intentional container you get to try things out that you may not have the opportunity to experience in 'normal' daily life.
Here are some of the KEY skills you will learn in the PlayParty Session:
1. Asking for what you want
This may SEEM simple, but in reality, most of us have been conditioned to not ask for what we want, or if we do so, it may be in an indirect, pushy or seductive way. The PlayParty Session gives us the opportunity to Practice relating authentically with one another and asking for the experience we Want to have.
2.Being rejected
This is an emotion that most people Really want to avoid. But in the PlayParty, rejection is part of the process, and eventually it’s part of the fun. It seems radical, but if we go through life Afraid of rejection, and avoiding it, we may be missing out on so much of what we really want! The PlayParty Session is a place to practice being rejected, and building up a natural resiliency to it, creating a new reality where we realize that rejection doesn’t mean something is wrong with us, it simply means the other person is a No to that request in that moment, and its an opportunity to honor their self-knowing and their honest communication.
3.Cultivating Courage
Both asking for what you want and facing the experience of possible rejection take courage!! You may see in your life that you are becoming more courageous, able to take more risks and be more vulnerable with people after doing PlayParty sessions.
4.Allowing Vulnerability
Our vulnerability is golden. It is truly precious. I’m not speaking about sharing something that makes you vulnerable, like telling a secret, I’m talking about allowing your defenses to soften, to allow yourself to be touched physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Vulnerability is what allows us to feel true intimacy with one another.
5.Opening your Mind
My experience is that relating in the PlayParty way is incredibly freeing, mind expanding and fun. It opens you up to possibilities because it offers clear, safe, respectful guidelines that then allow for this incredible Play to happen, because when people feel safe, they can relax and expand. This expansion is felt in the body and in the mind. The mind becomes more creative, like a child’s mind, full of possibilities.
If you’d like to explore the PlayParty Sessions we can begin with the Innerlover Session and practice Boundaries and Consent thus building the foundation for the PlayParty Sessions.
~ $500 per hour